Lead Like You How Authenticity Transforms the Way Women Live, Love, and Succeed
Is the life you're leading true to you? Do you feel like you're endlessly striving in a world that never stops asking for more? Too often, we exhaust ourselves in pursuit of supposed ideals. We give everything in search of 'success,' while struggling with stress, guilt, self-doub...
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| Formato: | Libro electrónico |
| Idioma: | Inglés |
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Newark :
John Wiley & Sons, Incorporated
2024.
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| Edición: | 1st ed |
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| Ver en Biblioteca Universitat Ramon Llull: | https://discovery.url.edu/permalink/34CSUC_URL/1im36ta/alma991009828032006719 |
Tabla de Contenidos:
- Cover
- Title Page
- Copyright Page
- Contents
- Preface
- Introduction
- Part I Know yourself
- Chapter 1 Why is it so hard to live true to ourselves?
- How our histories shape us
- It starts at the beginning
- Then everything changed again
- The challenges of instability
- Learning to 'earn' my worth
- How trauma shapes us
- But my childhood was normal
- We are not meant to do it alone
- Chapter 2 Learning to get our needs met
- Why are we working so hard?
- Three unconscious strategies for getting our needs met
- Leadership Circle framework
- Complying tendency: Moving toward
- Controlling tendency: Moving against
- When we are over-activated in our controlling tendency
- Protecting tendency: Moving away
- The root of all three tendencies
- Awareness. Acceptance. Action. Afterburn.
- Awareness
- Acceptance
- Action
- Watch out for the afterburn!
- Chapter 3 Learning to dance in relationships
- Learning to dance
- 'Good enough' parenting
- Dancing blindly
- How do you dance?
- 1. Secure attachment: The rock of reliability
- 2. Insecure ambivalent/anxious preoccupied: The yearning for connection
- 3. Insecure avoidant/dismissive avoidant: The island of independence
- 4. Disorganised/fearful avoidant: The pendulum of confusion
- Resolve your trauma to heal your attachment style
- Attachment in the workplace
- 1. Anxiously attached in the workplace
- 2. Avoidantly attached in the workplace
- 3. Securely attached in the workplace
- Hold your heart gently
- Chapter 4 The many forces that hinder our authenticity
- Our brain is wired for survival
- Our internal threat, drive and soothing systems
- Our threat system
- Our drive system
- Our soothing system
- Dependency and interdependency
- Adult stages of development
- Stage 3: Socialised mind
- Stage 4: Self-authoring mind.
- Stage 5: Self-transforming mind
- Our core beliefs colour how we see the world
- Getting stuck in identity and our narrative
- Who am I without my identity?
- The gift and challenge of being a mum
- Perimenopause and menopause
- The reality of a patriarchal, white-privileged and outwardly focused society
- #metoo
- Workplace gender bias
- Moving forward
- Good enough
- Changing our template
- Part II Care for yourself
- Chapter 5 The challenge and gift of being our own best friend
- Becoming our own best friend with self-compassion
- Learning to love myself
- But isn't it just self-indulgence?
- How shame cripples us
- Why do we resist self-compassion?
- Replace the inner critic with the inner coach
- Chapter 6 Finding our boundaries
- The need for compassionate boundaries
- Get clear on your priorities
- Chapter 7 Tuning into our needs
- Tuning into your unmet needs
- Metta meditation
- Tend and befriend
- Self-care is about valuing and respecting ourselves
- 1. Not every self-care activity feels good
- 2. Self-care isn't a one-time thing
- Prioritising self-care
- Chapter 8 Getting practical with self-care
- Gut health, stress and burnout
- Hustling to prove my worth
- Managing gut health with lifestyle choices
- Essential practices
- Start slowly
- Ten wellbeing practices
- 1. Consistent sleep for at least seven to eight hours each night
- 2. Regular exercise and physical movement
- 3. Nutrition
- 4. Meditation
- 5. Reflective journaling
- 6. Write a gratitude list
- 7. Digital detox
- 8. Stop, rest, relax and nourish your soul
- 9. Daily self-compassion practice
- 10. Human connection
- Create daily rituals
- Chapter 9 Financial self-care
- Confronting my financial demons
- Learning to respect and value ourselves
- Exploring our beliefs and assumptions about money
- Valuing ourselves at work.
- Three financial self-care practices
- 1. Live within your means and do not burden your future self
- 2. Provide your future self with a financial cushion
- 3. Financial hygiene checklist
- Part III Be yourself
- Chapter 10 Finding our authentic selves
- What is authenticity and how do we become truly authentic?
- 1. Self-awareness and personal growth
- 2. Embracing our individuality
- 3. Overcoming stereotypes and biases
- 4. Building genuine connections
- 5. Honesty and transparency
- 6. Balancing vulnerability and strength
- Chapter 11 Finding our authentic values and purpose
- A reflection for discovering your core values
- Who do you admire?
- Purpose makes our lives meaningful
- Seven steps for discovering your purpose
- Step 1: List ten things you want most out of your life
- Step 2: List ten things that you most want to see happen on the planet
- Step 3: List ten characteristics/traits that best describe you
- Step 4: List ten skills or abilities that you can do and love to do now
- Step 5: Identify your top priority from each group
- Step 6: Write a first draft of a personal mission statement
- Step 7: Rewrite, finesse and share
- Forget the grandiose purpose
- Chapter 12 Translating our values and purpose into vision
- Create your life vision
- Stage 1: Your life vision
- Stage 2: Your career and leadership vision
- Ignite new possibilities
- Chapter 13 Being ourselves in relationships
- Why are relationships so difficult?
- The past is intimately connected with the present
- The five core human needs
- Transference
- Transference in the workplace
- The shadow mirror of our triggers
- Chapter 14 The art of being both soft and strong
- Five practices for cultivating the art of soft and strong
- 1. Deep listening
- 2. Emotional intelligence
- 3. Courage
- 4. Giving and receiving constructive feedback.
- 5. Conflict resolution
- Chapter 15 Redefining success
- The quality of our future lives depends on the choices we make now
- Slowing down and shifting from burnout to balance
- Comparison kills our innate confidence and sense of success
- Cultivating satisfaction and joy is an inside job
- Grace, faith and letting go
- The gift of prayer
- Chapter 16 Leading trueto ourselves
- Embodied leadership presence
- Support your nervous system to stand in your power
- The feminine leadership advantage
- A final reflection
- Acknowledgements
- Resources
- References
- EULA.
